About a month ago, I met a guy at the bar. He was fun, seemed to know the people I was with although I hadn't met him before. But he's not the star of this story. He asked me how I knew my friends I was with, I told him Bloomsburg. He started naming off people that he knew that went to bloom; a couple guys in Kappa Sig that I was friends with, a few names I recognized, and then he said the golden name of a crush I held from when I first started at Bloom.. in 2014. I definitely didn't control my face, so he texted the kid telling him he ran into me at the bar. Long story short and a few beers later and it was all just a fun night and I was tucked back in bed. But then the next day, the crush boy messaged me on Instagram. Fast forward about a month, with on and off texting and snapchats, and I've officially learned that men are idiots, women overthink too much, and the world can be cruel.
I've always been a strong believer of people coming into your life for a reason. God is great and everything in this world happens for a reason. You can choose to believe the clichés or not, that's on you, but it's what I believe down to my core. I can't foresee the future or if this whole encounter will ever amount to anything, but in my current moment, I'm not sure there was a point of the crush coming to fruition. The beginning was great, day long conversations about work and life and just having someone to talk to. But because he doesn't live in Philly currently means that it has been a full month and we haven't gone out yet... not a single drink. But don't think I haven't tried either. It's 2018, I am all for women empowerment and women taking the lead and asking men to go out. But every time I did (aka twice) he was busy, so this empowered woman is taking a slight step back. Because as a wise roommate once said, I am a prize to be won. Women should take charge and change the rules, but don't ever forget how important it is to be pursued. Absolutely be bold, double text, send the first message, break the glass ceiling so to speak, but don't lose your strong sense of independence.
So no, I don't regret the past month even though I have no idea what the future holds, if anything. When it comes to men, it's important to communicate, because otherwise they don't get it. Be direct, be bold, and most importantly: Be open to the possibility, but never attached to the outcome.
Author - mallory
I've always lived a wild life, so here I am to document it for the world... be ready for some fun adventures, xoxo.