I haven't been on a date in five years. Since my last college boyfriend Shane, I haven't been on a date. As a matter of fact, I haven't ever been on a date with someone I wasn't actually "dating". In high school, I dated Corey and our "dates" consisted of skiing usually, sometimes walking around the mall. In college I dated Brian.. and I don't think we ever went on a date. And then I dated Shane, and we did things together which constitutes a "date" I guess, but other than the boys I dated, I never went on an actual "date".
So a few months ago I wrote about the boy with the letter, Henry. I wrote an entire blog post about the way we met at the bar and we wrote letters back and forth and how I texted him and it took him a month to answer. And now for the last four weeks we've been trying to plan a date. Every week for four weeks one would text and the other would be busy. We finally set a date for tonight and I honestly wish I could go back to saying I haven't been on a date in five years.
I don't want to bad mouth anybody because maybe he was nervous. And to be fair, I didn't go in with the most positive attitude about it either. It had been seven months since we met at the bar, I honestly didn't even remember what he looked like. I dreaded the date all day, the hours leading up to it I wanted to cancel, but I stuck it out because I was being a baby and now here I am about to tell you about quite possibly the most uncomfortable night ever.
In the letter he originally wrote back to me, he said "lets get burgers at the Goat's Beard". Okay, cool. Well since I received the letter in the beginning of September, I've learned one major thing about Henry. He SUCKS at communication. We haven't texted more than "are you free this Thursday?" "nope, maybe next week", for a month. It's been quite annoying and quite exhausting. So we finally set a date to go to Goat's Beard tonight, a place I have never been. I did what every girl does before a date and googled the menu to prescreen what I wanted. This place was hella expensive. I'm talking the kind of place that has 8 entrees to choose from and 7 of them are over $35. The cheapest thing on the menu was the burgers. So I decided to get a burger since that's what he suggested anyway. and here's how the date went...
I arrived at the restaurant first. The bar was packed, not a single open seat. The bar tables were packed. So I ordered a drink to calm my nerves and then asked the hostess for a table. Since I couldn't remember what he even looked like, I shot him a text and told him where I was sitting. When he arrived, the waiter got him a drink too and we started our date. It started off great, he was cute, like way cuter than I remembered. It was dinner time, almost seven, I was getting hungry from not eating since lunch at 12:30 and just before the waiter came back to order our food he dropped the too-soon-date-ending line "Are you actually hungry because this place is kinda expensive, even the burgers are over $15"........................ Well what do you say to that? Yes, I'm still hungry? You can sit here and watch me eat? So of course I was polite and said "no, I'm not too hungry". The poor waiter came over five times to ask us if we were ready to order and I just sat there embarrassed that we were even at a table. For the first time in five years, I wanted to be anywhere else but at that table. The rest of the date went on, I was already in a sour mood both from before the date even began and then again right after this moment. How do you ask someone out to dinner and then not get dinner..? If you just wanted drinks then you should've just said drinks. I was over it. It's an actual shame too because he was really cute.. so I was both bummed and annoyed at the same time. He also asked me bizarre questions like how much student debt I'm in... (the answer to which is so much that I need to marry rich so I'm not poor forever, how much money do you make?). I really tried to give the benefit of the doubt and say that he was nervous. He also said he had a really bad day at work, to which I responded "well you should have rescheduled then". Because tbh I would much rather us reschedule for the 8th time than for whatever experience you call tonight.
It sucks that this was the card I was dealt after so many years of being single. This was my crash course into dating because I had little to no interest in dating quite yet anyway. There was a lot of anticipation to this date. The letters, the back and forth, it seemed like the epic love story. But it sorta backfired and slammed my expectations. I know that life isn't like the movies (as badly as I wanted it to be), but life is not this night. This is not how a date should go not even how a bad first date should go and definitely not how I anticipated (or prepared) it would be.
The night ended with an awkward hug and me sprinting off to home to snuggle up with my sweet angel, Hudson, who is the only man I need. I know that my prince charming is out there and maybe he is reading this right now (in which case feel free to come take me on a better first date). I will find the man that compliments my soul and makes me a better person. And tonight, in this exact moment, I sadly don't think that's Henry. Good luck to my next suitor, it can only go up from here...
Author - mallory
I've always lived a wild life, so here I am to document it for the world... be ready for some fun adventures, xoxo.